I have reached an edge in my willingness to share my process. This is something I knew about myself, and it’s part of my journey of keeping my promise every day. I missed yesterday and I almost missed today. Tomorrow I will be writing and working through this.
synonyms of the word radical:
thoroughgoing, thorough, complete, total, comprehensive, exhaustive, sweeping, far-reaching, wide-ranging, extensive, across the board, profound, major, stringent, rigorous
I believe in radical compassion, radical resilience, and radical self-love. I am a radical feminist because I believe in getting to the root cause of misogyny – I’m not that interested in the kind of ‘equality’ that just makes women more like men, I want to tear down the walls of gendered nonsense and see a new paradigm arise based on radical respect. I am radically anti-racist because I am learning how to open my eyes to the damage done by white privilege and white supremacy. A zillion pages have been written about this by much better writers than myself, and I am going to be sharing them to center the words and lives of Black feminists.
Most of my friends & most of my facebook fans are a lot like me – privileged, middle-class white women. It is time for us to do better. Racism is learned. Gender norms are learned. Our generation and the generations that follow are responsible for unlearning so we can move forward.
Black and Third World people are expected to educate white people as to our humanity. Women are expected to educate men. Lesbians and gay men are expected to educate the heterosexual world. The oppressors maintain their position and evade their responsibility for their own actions. There is a constant drain of energy which might be better used in redefining ourselves and devising realistic scenarios for altering the present and constructing the future.
– Audre Lord
My purpose is to guide you into a deeper relationship with yourself where you experience greater self-love, personal leadership, and mind-body health.
For all the positive and honest and revealing and encouraging words I share…
I realized this morning that I am still stuck in a deeper level.
There is still a voice inside my head – a version of me as lurker, as troll, as inner mean girl – who rollsnher eyes and smirks and says “sure, whatever” when I state my dreams or expand my belief in myself.
She’s the reason I’m embarrassed to share myself or take people at their word when they compliment me.
She’s the reason I’m afraid to say good things about myself. If no real-life jerk is standing there so say “actually, you’re not that great” she steps in to be sure I know.
She’s the reason I strive to help others feel better about themselves- she ignites my protectiveness, my compassion, my generosity for other people – and I am just realizing/rediscovering that I owe that to myself as well.
I mean, yeah, duh. I’m laughing at myself that a revelation so fundamental would come to me as a lightbulb moment. I guess sometimes I just need a little shake to bring me back round to the basics.
My work is to love myself through my flaws. My work is to teach my inner mean girl through consistent, compassionate attention that dreams are safe. Beliefs are safe, even ones that expand the boundaries of what I already know. Feeling good is safe. Self-love and self-care and self-forgiveness are safe.
I deserve to embrace new beliefs.
Besides the intention to increase my visibility for 108 days, I am also setting intention around decluttering my physical space. I am clear on how holding onto stuff is an emotional sticky place and I am ready to clear and air out these places.
How do you go about setting intentions? Do you do a new moon ritual?