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021 leadership

I am ecstatic to announce that I am going to attend Your Leadership Recipe LIVE in Macon, Georgia at the end of March. Makenna Held has long been an inspiration for me, as a coach and as an entrepreneur.

As a white woman I feel a profound responsibility to speak against misogyny, racism, ableism and homophobia and to use my privileged position in this society to bring more attention to injustice. My voice is needed, if only to direct attention to the voices of black // LBGTQI+ // marginalized women who are doing the work, have always done the work of freedom and justice. I write, I mother, I relate, I live, and I lead from a space of intersectional feminism – liberation for ALL women.

Women I love who will be speaking & leading there:

Makenna Held – just the queen, seriously.

Layla Saad – spiritual and business mentor, a certified Reiki II energy practitioner, an award-winning speaker and the host of the Wild Mystic Woman Podcast.

Alexis P. Morgan – Writer, troublemaker, my primary day-to-day inspiration.

Andréa Ranae Johnson – Coach, facilitator, and writer. Leader of the Coaching as Activism course which is on my MUST DO list.

Halley Grey – online marketing at Evolve and Succeed.

Thais Sky – women’s coach, speaker, teacher and feminist.

And there are more, I just haven’t gotten to them all yet.

Read, follow, hear, and pay these women. They are everything.

016 radical

synonyms of the word radical:

thoroughgoingthoroughcompletetotalcomprehensiveexhaustivesweepingfar-reachingwide-rangingextensive, across the board, profoundmajorstringentrigorous

I believe in radical compassion, radical resilience, and radical self-love. I am a radical feminist because I believe in getting to the root cause of misogyny – I’m not that interested in the kind of ‘equality’ that just makes women more like men, I want to tear down the walls of gendered nonsense and see a new paradigm arise based on radical respect. I am radically anti-racist because I am learning how to open my eyes to the damage done by white privilege and white supremacy. A zillion pages have been written about this by much better writers than myself, and I am going to be sharing them to center the words and lives of Black feminists.

Most of my friends & most of my facebook fans are a lot like me – privileged, middle-class white women. It is time for us to do better. Racism is learned. Gender norms are learned. Our generation and the generations that follow are responsible for unlearning so we can move forward.

010 marvel

So I am in a Mood today. It’s the new moon, I want to burn everything down, I am extra frustrated with myself today.
And this appeared in my inbox:
Susan, I know what it’s like. I’ve seen it played out a few zillion times: You’re waiting for that magical day when someone makes the connection and recognizes who you really are. Maybe they’ll first catch the sparkle in your eye. Or perhaps they’ll marvel at your insights and the depth of your spirit. Someone who will help you connect the dots, believe in yourself, and make sense of it all. Someone who will understand you, approve of you, and unhesitatingly give you a leg up so that life can pluck your ready, ripened self from the branch of magnificence.
Well, I’m here to tell you, Susan, your wait is over. That someone is you. 
Good thing you rock,
 The Universe

004 who I am

I am a white woman in a white supremacist patriarchy. It is the water I have always lived in, the air I’ve always breathed. I have always known this, have always sensed it. It has only become so extraordinarily clear in the past two years as my country has endorsed and elected a nazi-sympathizing rapist buffoon to the presidency. White women – women who look just like me, live their lives like I do – voted for this regime that celebrates violence, toxic masculinity, and white supremacy. It’s almost more than I can bear – but not addressing it is a form of privilege, and I couldn’t live with myself if I didn’t.

I haven’t said enough about my position. I sent a newsletter with my personal manifesto after the nazi rallies in Charlottesville, and I have followed and shared and commented… it’s not enough.

I have felt helpless, outraged, hopeless, frightened. I have worried and cried and lost sleep. Not enough.

I will write much more about this as I find words to express it. For now I will start with this: my blog, my life, the spaces I inhabit are not apolitical. As a straight white able-bodied woman in America today, I have a duty to create justice for those who do not have the privileges I have. This is going to take me WAY outside my comfort zone and I am doing the personal and public work to step into it. I worry a LOT about getting it “right” and not screwing up, saying the wrong thing, doing inadvertent damage. I am doing my best to move forward with these fears.

I invite you to share your story, to listen, to learn. Anyone who is abusive or fragile in this space will be removed.

Please read this:

And this:

More to come.